Night Owl’s Sleep Deprivation from an Early Bird

One thing I cherish in the mornings, is the ability to have a couple of hours (well at least get some) good zzzs. With SO being a notorious lark and I am a notorious night owl (if they have jobs out in society which benefited my peak efficiency times I’d be on cloud nine – or even being able to run my business full time [if it was making money] would be fantastic).

I am positively feeling sleep deprived at the moment:

Sleep is as important to the human body as food and water, but many of us don’t get enough sleep. Insufficient sleep, inadequate quality of sleep or disruptions to the sleep-wake cycle (such as those that occur with shift work or travelling to a different time zone) have consequences for how we function in the daytime, causing sleepiness and fatigue.

  • Constant yawning
  • Grogginess when waking in the morning
  • Reluctance to get out of bed in the morning.
  • Over-activity and hyperactive behaviour

Common causes of sleep deprivation include:

  • Personal choice – some people don’t realise that the body needs adequate sleep. Instead of regularly going to bed at a reasonable hour, they prefer to stay up late to socialise, watch television or read a good book.
  • Illness – illnesses such as colds and tonsillitis can cause snoring, gagging and frequent waking, and have a direct effect on sleep by fragmenting it.
  • Work – people who do shift work disrupt their sleep-wake cycles on a regular basis. Frequent travellers (for example, airline crew) also tend to have erratic sleeping patterns.
  • Sleep disorder – problems such as sleep apnoea, snoring and periodic limb movement disorder can disturb the person’s sleep many times during the night.
  • Medications – some drugs used to treat disorders such as epilepsy or attention deficit hyperactivity disorder (ADHD) can cause insomnia.
  • The sleeping environment – sleep may be disrupted for a range of environmental reasons; for example, because the bedroom is too hot or cold or because of noisy neighbours or a snoring bed partner.
  • Poor sleep hygiene – some people’s habits are disruptive; for example, drinking coffee or smoking cigarettes close to bedtime stimulates the nervous system and makes sleep less likely. Another common problem is lying in bed and worrying, rather than relaxing.
  • Babies, older babies and toddlers – parents almost always experience sleep deprivation because their young children wake frequently in the night for feeding or comfort.


SO usually gets super shitty after 9pm because he gets tired – whereas in the morning I struggle for a good few hours of the day to feel like a normal person (but happily able to think things through later in the afternoon). SO thinks because I can’t function in the morning (and mind you I don’t like coffee so I don’t need to be stiumlated to be awake like him) thinks that’s “weird” and not “normal”.

SO needs lots of noise, lights, an extremely cold room, lots of space and stimulation to go to bed at night. He needs to sleep around 9pm because he gets shitty and works early hours. I can’t handle his sleeping needs and need a quiet, dark spot where I can scroll pages online and THEN fall asleep. I don’t like fucking being woken up. By anyone. This is a life long pattern which isn’t going to change. SO wakes up before 7am and now wakes me up on purpose…so then I can sleep and he whines when I don’t get up because “I’m being lazy for sleeping in (we have different work times for a start)”. The lack of consideration is RUDE. DON’T FUCKING WAKE ME UP.

If I was left to my own devices – a sleep in for me would be 9am-9:30am and if I was super tired (which I have been recently) or really unwell I could sleep until 10-10:30am. But I find that my sleep pattern fucks up and I stay up too late.



^ I would be more affectionate if I wasn’t bloody woken up in the morning for anything (food/whinging/shits and giggles/gripes)